“What would you do if I sang out of key, would you stand up and walk out on me?”*
What are we looking for in a friend?
Not an acquaintance “Yes I remember you (I don’t) so good to see you”
Not a companion “I remember you, you accompanied us on the trip”
Not a colleague “Oh I remember you, you worked on that committee. So nice to see you again”. Continue reading “A Little Help From My Friends”
Who We Were Meant To Be
Have you ever thought about who you were meant to be? Most of us know who we are. Our everyday lives, our failures and successes, disappointments and satisfaction tell our story.
Is there is a difference in who we have become and what we were meant to be?
In those moments when things are going well or especially when they are not, have you ever sensed that something is missing, that things were not quite what they should be? That you were meant for more?
I was sure I was meant to be a Beatle.
I became a Beatles fan at age 12 after watching them on the Ed Sullivan show.I learned to play guitar while imitating my idols John Lennon and Paul McCartney. That was the beginning of a love affair with music that lasted many years. I loved playing music, it was my life. My dream was that I would make it big like my heros and I was sure that was who it was meant to be.
As time went on and life happened the dream faded and other things took its place. But there is still a place in my heart that remembers the dream especially when I hear a Beatles song and I sometimes wonder still about what might have been…
Several nights ago I happened across a documentary on John Lennon and I heard this song
Watching the Wheels
“People say I’m crazy doing what I’m doing,
Well they give me all kinds of warnings to save me from ruin,
When I say that I’m o.k. they look at me kind of strange,
Surely your not happy now you no longer play the game,
People say I’m lazy dreaming my life away,
Well they give me all kinds of advice designed to enlighten me,
When I tell that I’m doing Fine watching shadows on the wall,
Don’t you miss the big time boy you’re no longer on the ball?
I’m just sitting here watching the wheels go round and round,
I really love to watch them roll,
No longer riding on the merry-go-round,
I just had to let it go”
Lennon made his dissatisfaction with his life as a Beatle (which led to his leaving the group) well known. In an interview* in later years it was clear he was still attempting to deal with his celebrity and who he was meant to be.
“If I could be a fisherman I would. If I had the capabilities of being something other than what I am, I would. It’s no fun being an artist. You know what it’s like, writing, it’s torture”.
Even even when we have it all we can become what we were not meant to be and wonder what it would be like to be someone else.
The discovery of what we are meant to be can be difficult. There are many factors and circumstances that determine who and what we become. Where we are born, our heritage, the social and economic status of our family, our talents and abilities, advantages of education. Even with the advantage and disadvantage of all these things we can still miss our calling.
But is it really important? Isn’t it better to take life as it comes and hope for the best?
It took years for me to discover what and who I was meant to be. And still even now it has not all been fully revealed. Allow me to share some things I have learned through my journey.
We were meant to worship.
In the words of Bob Dylan “You got to serve somebody” And its true. It is in our DNA to worship. Most of my life my worship was reserved for me. My dreams, my career, my needs my wants. It may be the same for you. Or your worship may be for somebody or something. It may be money, sex, power, sports or even music. All of the things we are told matter most.
The truth is all these things make poor gods and our worship is empty and in vain.
Why? Because they are temporary and ever changing. Many of those who win big in the lottery soon discover that the money brings more problems and pain than happiness.
The list is long celebrities, athletes, actors, rock stars who hang onto their former glory because that is all they have left. Power brokers like Howard Hughes and others who die broken and alone.
It is not that we can’t be rich, successful or famous or even powerful. But when that is the center of who we are, it almost always ends badly.
“ So God gave them just what their lustful hearts desired. As a result, they violated their bodies and invited shame into their lives. 25 How? By choosing a foolish lie over God’s truth. They gave their lives and devotion to the creature rather than to the Creator Himself, who is blessed forever and ever”.
We worship the things that are temporary, the created instead of the Creator.
We were meant for purpose
What is your purpose in life? Have you thought about it?
If we recognize that first we were made by God for God, and our worship belongs to Him then we begin to understand that our purpose of existence has something to do with His plan. A place, a role to play in His plan. All of us want to be part of something bigger than ourselves. That is why we join clubs, join teams, wear hats and jerseys of our favorite teams, form alliances. We want to be part of something.
Starbucks understood this by creating an emphasis on how to create a sense of belonging to their customers. They don’t just sell coffee, they create a place where community happens and relationships deepen.
Would it surprise you to know that God planned a purpose for you long ago, before the world began? Consider these words:
“ For we are the product of His hand, heaven’s poetry etched on lives, created in the Anointed, Jesus, to accomplish the good works God arranged long ago.”
We were meant for eternity
For the atheist this has no meaning believing as they do that this life is all there is. The agnostic believes you cannot prove or disprove the exsistence of God , so eternity is simply not an issue.
For every world religion and for most of us we have this sense that their is something more than this life. What if you realized that everyone you have ever known or will meet in the future is immortal. That a part of us will go on forever.
I think of these words written by C. S. Lewis
Because we are made in God’s image and because He has come after us to rescue us and restore us to Himself, we are freed from all that keeps us from living as creatures who bask in God’s glory. We are all far more than we think we are.
Before we consider the little picture we must first consider the big picture.
Who are we in light of eternity ?
CS Lewis, when dealing with this concept in The Weight of Glory says this:
“It is a serious thing,” says Lewis, “to live in a society of possible gods and goddesses, to remember that the dullest and most uninteresting person you talk to may one day be a creature which, if you saw it now, you would be strongly tempted to worship, or else a horror and a corruption such as you now meet, if at all, only in a nightmare.
I realize that I may have raised more questions in writing this than I have provided answers. If it has given you cause to think about “who you were meant to be” then it is good.
Wishing you well on your journey of discovery!